Situational Leadership and the One Minute Manager

In the book by Ken Blanchard, One Minute Manager, he talks about Situational Leadership. I could say that so far, this is the best theory I heard about management and leadership.

It does not come to us naturally as managers since we always think and say that to be effective, we have to have a management style that define us. This book would tell us that to be truly effective managers and leaderships, we should be able to flex to multiple styles to fit the development needs of our direct reports.

Does the direct report require direction or support or a mixture of both? This book tells us that our direct reports go through different development needs(D1 to D4) and that as managers, we are responsible for ensuring that our direct reports can be as productive as possible by providing them appropriate leadership styles (S1 to S4).

The book also tells us that the development needs varies by task and we should not label a person a D1 or a D4 without attaching the label to specific tasks.

At the end of the day - the book tells us that there is the golden rule (do unto others what you want done unto you) but there is the platinum rule - do unto others what they want done to them and the latter is the true measure of a true leader.

Be Interested to be Interesting - Listening Your Way to Success

One of the things that I value about my current company is that it values people so much so that it has a training program for managers geared towards developing them to become better people managers. What resonated with me the most today is the phrase "be interested to be interesting".

I have always found myself to be in the mood to solve problems so much so that when people come to me about a certain concern - my brain starts thinking about giving this person some advice on how to solve the problem as soon as possible thinking that it is after all what he came to me for - right? I realized today that may not be the best approach after all.

I learned that the best first approach is really to listen - and not just listen by saying "aha", "ok" or simply not talking. Listening is being fully engaged at that moment in hearing and understanding the other person fully. The first goal is to be truly able to paraphrase or summarize what the other person is saying as a statement without your own judgment or thoughts mixed into it.

Some tips I learned:

a. Have the word "you" in the first few words to indicate that what you are saying is not your thought but your speaker's thoughts and you are simply reflecting on what he said to ensure your speaker got his message to you right. Examples can be "From what I understand, YOU..." or "You are saying..."

b.Paraphrase - don't parrot. Don't simply repeat what the other person is saying but say it in your own words

c.Acknowledge the feelings, not just the content. An example would be "From what I understand, you are upset with your situation". You are not saying it is right or wrong to be upset but simply acknowledging what the other person feels.

d. Don't use it all the time. Assess whether reflective listening is the right approach for what you are trying to achieve, which may be providing the other person some room to process his own situation more clearly or allowing the other person to think himself through a solution. There are moments when a more direct approach might be required. Use your own judgment and sense of intent and appropriateness when practicing.

The Project Management Circus: Act 3 - The Juggler

The juggler is one of the most common acts in the circus as it is in project management.

How many times has a project manager been thrown into a situation that he only does not need to balance between scope, cost and schedule but balance as well his emotions vs leadership, balance between his team's productivity vs team morale  - even balance between himself vs his project? Somehow the idea of juggling a chainsaw, a bowling ball, a torch, a 60 lb jug and an axe while blindfolded and riding a unicycle - on a tightrope seems simpler to do right?

The key to success in this act is to always know what are the things up in the air (the tasks), what is the first thing you need to catch(what is the priority), when do you need to catch it (the schedule), how will you catch each one without hurting yourself(the process) and should you be the one to catch it in the first place (the skill of working the matris).Most importantly - always trust that your knowledge will carry you through and this is where experience comes in. The more experience you have in balancing all the aspects of a project - the more the act becomes second nature to you - so much so that you can manage to wow the crowd even when you are blindfolded.

Lesson learned - don't shy away from project tasks that seem bigger than you think you can do now - always believe in your ability to stretch your comfort zone and you will soon find yourself juggling not only tasks - but juggling several million dollar projects all at the same time.

What Difference 3 Seconds Make

Have you ever seen how politicians, CEOs and other famous people react during an interview after being asked an important question? They pause... for at least 3 seconds.

This 3 seconds technique is a very basic method but you would see it differentiates the mediocre interviewee from the great ones. Why is that?

The 3 seconds technique gives you sufficient time to

a. control your emotions. 1 second.
b. complete the translation of the question and straighten your thoughts. 1 second.
c. form in your mind how you would like to deliver your response with your intent in mind. 1 second

The 3 second technique gives its user better credibility and control and it gives the message better form and impact. Truly - what a difference 3 seconds make.